We all have loved and lost, as we go through our lives. The question to ask ourselves is – “How do we respond to the loss and still love?”
Rather, it is somewhat of the query I have contemplated these last several months.
I don’t have this amazing blanketed answer, solving all of our earthly problems. I do want to share my journey of loving, losing, and loving again.
Losing and loving both hurts. Profoundly. I am choosing to remember that slowly opening up to love again is worth the risk of being hurt again. I truly believe this to be true, whether we are discussing church stuff, friendships, or family relationships.
I won’t shy away from opening up about these wounds, because God’s truth, presence, and work are vividly seen in these once dark spaces. I want to shine His light and point out the shades of light (His actions, hope, and biblical truths) He is bringing into my life – through unpleasant situations.
For the majority of my adult life, I have been in love with Acts chapter 2. All I have wanted is a community where I can enjoy Christ and find a place to belong. I wanted close-knit friendships, which always seemed outside of my reach or to my heart’s content – I suppose we can say.
I cherish the picture of the Christian community we see in Acts 2. This is a place where Christ is exalted. Also, where His people can daily walk through life together.
All the believers devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and to fellowship, and to sharing in meals (including the Lord’s Supper), and to prayer.
A deep sense of awe came over them all, and the apostles performed many miraculous signs and wonders. And all the believers met together in one place and shared everything they had.
They sold their property and possessions and shared the money with those in need.
They worshiped together at the Temple each day, met in homes for the Lord’s Supper, and shared their meals with great joy and generosity— all the while praising God and enjoying the goodwill of all the people. And each day the Lord added to their fellowship those who were being saved.
– Acts 2:42-47 NLT
This is still my goal in life. I want this for every single of my relationships with others who follow our Savior and Lord Jesus Christ!
I believe not only in reconciliation between man and God through Christ, but between fellow believers too.
Reconciliation, highlighted in 2 Corinthians 5:17-21, reminds us of our need for both. As we trust the Lord Jesus beyond our understanding, we discover His plans are better than our own and experience an increase in joy – usually – for living out His Word. Maybe for me, it is more about making peace and forgiving them – not so much going to this or that person to hash out things.
Loving again, due to loss or relational hurts, is so very hard. Yet the reason I do it is to live out the Word of God. I get the opportunity to be able to witness God’s great power and truths – as I apply God’s Word by trusting Him, forgiving others, and being open to expanding my Christian community.
Now I talk a really good game. However some days, or many, I feel less than equipped to handle my grief or move on from said grief. It keeps me up at night. So I don’t think it is a linear approach where you never have a bad day and regret trusting another person after what had happened to you – that nearly destroyed you.
. . . But by God’s grace, you are still here.
You still have a God-given purpose. You still are profoundly loved by first your Creator and Savior, and many others in your life. The Lord is still the most important one who loves you far more than you could begin to imagine. He is why I can take steps of faith to open up my heart to loving once again.
Which stage do you find yourself in, today? Losing and processing your loss? Reconciling – whether by forgiving them or going to that person? (Re)building your Christian community?