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Single Living: The Truth About God’s Will and Sex

Defining the Will of God

The Greek word, thelema, used for “will” in 1 Thessalonians 4:3 means: “of the purpose of God to bless mankind through Christ”. When we read about God’s exclusion of something, do we automatically think that something good will come from abstaining? In terms of sex, is God truly desiring to bless us? It depends who we will listen to. Whose voice is the one we listen to? Is it culture? Our sinful and old self? Or do we allow all other voices to be crowded out, by keeping God’s Word as the loudest voice of all?

Back to our definition of God’s will: To bless – God tells us “no”, because He wants to bless us. As His children, He will lead us not on the easy path, but the one most worthwhile. Instead of self-destruction by giving into sexual impurities, God wants to add to the good gifts He has given us. Sex is described like this in a message by John Piper:

Not all sexual desire is lust. God made sexual desire. It has its good place and it can, in fact, become an act of worship in the temple of marriage. But lust is sexual desire gone wrong.

Furthermore, what happens when lust wins over our trust in God and our God-given self control?

The lusted-after woman or man in your head, or on the screen, or on the street, is dishonored — not treated as a sacred, precious, eternal person made in the image of God… [to disregard God] is to disregard the promises and warnings of having or losing the beauties of Christ. So lust is a sexual desire that dishonors its object and disregards God…

The Struggle for Purity

Scripture backs up the struggle against sexual purity. In 2 Timothy 3 talks about the last days, and describes the world we live in quite well:

People will love only themselves… [They] will have no self-control… They will do foolish things without thinking and will be so proud of themselves. Instead of loving God, they will love pleasure. They will go on pretending to be devoted to God, but they will refuse to let that “devotion” change the way they live. Stay away from these people! (see verses 1-5)

Surrendering to God

We must put God at the enter of it. It’s not only abstaining, but giving God the reins. Allowing the Holy Spirit to direct our path, and place within us the spiritual fruit of self-control.

Sex is worth waiting for. Not only is it worth waiting for, it is worth not letting it take our minds captive (see 2 Cor. 10:5). God is worth obeying. Seek His will. His will is worth it. Not only is His will worth it, God is worth it. He will not deprive us, but show us there is a better way when we take His path versus our own or this world’s.

To seek His standards is better to follow the trends of the world and what it may have to offer.

Reflection Questions

  1. What area of sexual impurity do we need to give to God?
  2. How have we treated the will of God? Do we see it as a blessing or curse?
  3. Prayerfully consider His plan displayed through His Word, and any changes you need to make (see Ps. 101:3)

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2 replies on “Single Living: The Truth About God’s Will and Sex”

Very well written Stacy. This is a subject that many don’t want to think about, whether married or single. I fear ît is a major issue in a lot of Christian lives that is not addressed nearly enough. All we need to do is compare ourselves to the example set and taught by our Lord to see that much more attention needs to be given to this area of our lives

A lot sure don’t want to talk about it. But… If Jesus talked about it publicly, we should be comfortable enough to talk about it too. Important topic, for sure. Ignoring important topics like this, just does more harm than good… We have to start talking and hearing what the Bible has to say. Thanks for your support.

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